Do what you have to do to conquer your fears. You’ll never get to where you were destined to go unless you lift the weight of fear off of your shoulders. Fear has no place in purpose, all of you is required in your quest for success. But, believe me………I understand that it is definitely much easier said than done….HELL…..I’m writing this for myself just as much as I’m writing it for you. I just figured I’d share it because we all have a connection if not off anything except the fact that “we all been through something”.



It’s not so much about regret-wisdom is most important, although I have to say that remorse is an essential part of the equation.



Nothing is worth not being yourself.  It is super important to be mindful of the sacrifices you make. This is critical to getting to your purpose. Too many sacrifices leaves room for resentment.


The majority of us have the innate ability to reflect, and sometimes our pasts haunt us. This is especially true when we don’t readily accept its lessons. God takes us through different storms-disquising them as “good times” and purposefully doesn’t reveal that they are “tests” in hopes that we become better people. When we fight our way through the storm, the next step is reflection-regret has no rightful place in your journey. Learn courtesy of your mistakes and hold yourself accountable. Remember, even your past has a purpose. 


It’s amazing how easy it is for people to smile in your face, laugh with you over the phone and turn around and talk behind your back with the same breath they use to brighten your day. Perhaps the most disheartening part is how they can keep it going with a conscious as long as they “think” you don’t know. The sting is just a little deeper when it’s family. I grew up thinking of family as a soft place to fall-a place where one could be vulnerable without fear of being judged. As I journeyed into adulthood, I found that family can sometimes be worse than strangers. A lesson my mother began trying to teach me shortly before she made her transition. One that I was in denial about for years. Everyone that you love doesn’t have a place in your life outside of what you feel for them in your heart, because no matter how you want to imagine them, you must accept who they are. Sometimes deception has a sweet voice and a smiling face. Being able to discern the difference is critical.

I’m adult enough to admit that I used to be one of those people who talked behind the backs of others. Being able to say “used to”  makes me grateful for the wisdom that I have acquired. The best thing to do is to not associate with people you can’t be genuine with-even if you stand to gain from it. It’s called developing good “character”-something that should never be compromised. 

CREATIVITY………The gift and the curse

Creativity is a talent that those who are blessed with–are not quick to notice. I mean, they know it’s something special-they just don’t realize how much of “The SHIT” it makes them. CREATIVITY IS LIFE. When you create- you have to imagine-to see it in your mind. Without imagination-creativity is impossible.

I would say……. that…….”everyone is creative in their own way” or give one of the other “politically correct” responses. But…FUCK THAT. If you’re creative-that means you’re special. The universe relies on you for great moments. Your influence is what people are referring to when they say…..I’m grateful for everything my eyes have seen.”  “Creatives” keep the world turning.Without creativity………… there would be no “favorite designer” “favorite song”, “favorite artist”, I could go on and on, but, I think the word “artist” pretty much sums up who I am talking about.  Recognize your gifts-acquire wisdom. We only have one life to live AND we don’t know when it’s going to end. Just stop and think about that the next time you let somebody’s opinion stop you from doing you.

I just wanna innovate and create.