Let your instincts lead you.



The majority of us have the innate ability to reflect, and sometimes our pasts haunt us. This is especially true when we don’t readily accept its lessons. God takes us through different storms-disquising them as “good times” and purposefully doesn’t reveal that they are “tests” in hopes that we become better people. When we fight our way through the storm, the next step is reflection-regret has no rightful place in your journey. Learn courtesy of your mistakes and hold yourself accountable. Remember, even your past has a purpose. 


Kindness is cool, especially when it is given without the expectation of getting it back. It sucks that it’s often perceived as an open pathway for disrespect and taking advantage. 


Life is not always “a good time” but what I’ve learned to do is let all of the good in my life consume me. I immerse myself in it to the point where nothing can still my joy-at least for long. This kind of joy does not evolve from material things-those things only bring superficial happiness and artificial joy. I’m talking about the kind of joy that comes out of knowing-accepting-and respecting who you are. When you love yourself, people feed off of that energy. Sometimes they react negatively and sometimes positively, but the beautiful thing is that, no matter how they react, it has no real effect on you. Unfortunately, there are people who can’t handle being around “happiness”-who can’t handle the transition of you coming into who you are-it somehow makes them feel “a way” -they are “affected” by it. These people have no place in your circle-no place in your life. They exude negative energy-an energy that is fostered by their own personal shortcomings and insecurities. Some of these “issues” might not even be their fault-maybe their upbringing or a tragedy brought it on them. But, one thing is for certain… is definitely not your “issue”. In this world we live in, we have to be our own source of joy. Work hard to create a life that you are happy with-become the person you want to be- and remember not to consider any “standards” except your own. People can only “judge” a person to whom their opinion matters.



If you’re a person who loves to gossip about the shortcomings of others-dislikes people you don’t even know-always finds the negative in any situation-who’d rather dwell in your own pity instead of seeking out solutions…….then you qualify as a negative person, and when you’re a negative person, you exude negative energy. We all get caught in negative emotions and behavior at some point in our lives, although there may be some exceptions, (I’m not one of them) but with age and experience comes wisdom. So, when you reach a certain age-you must accept some accountability.

“Talking about” others won’t change anything in your life. It won’t make it better. The best approach is to exercise our innate right to agency in our own lives. We all have the capacity to make choices. Through my experiences, I found that the best choice I could make for myself is to think positive thoughts. I made it a habit-and it helped me to get rid of all of the negative shit that was adding nothing to my life. 

With this choice came lost friendships, altered relationships with family and a circle that is unimaginably small. But, more importantly, it took my level of peace and happiness to new heights. In this crazy world, it’s super important to seek out positivity and to pour that energy back out into the world. Start evaluating your relationships-pay close attention to your conversations-the energy you’re allowing to come into your life. Energy is real and it is powerful. Stop being a listening ear to negativity-when you feed it, you allow it to grow. You’ll find that when you stop taking it in, you’ll have less and less to put out.