It is important to think about the “why” in action. Many factors play into our beliefs, behavior, life choices and the paths we take. We are all different-we have different experiences-been exposed to different things. So, it is inevitable that our perspective-the way in which we “frame” things be different. Differences can be great tools for interpersonal relations, but not without respect.
There is something special about the collaborative process. Not only does it provide a forum for mutual encouragement, it affords the opportunity to become enlightened-to broaden our horizons-to alter our “frames”. If we begin to think about why we “do what we do”, we might gain a deeper understanding of others.
Our beliefs, lifestyles and values are for the most part prescribed, literally from the time we are born. If everything else about me were the same (i.e. personality, temperament, race, size, blood type, etc) but I was raised in Germany by german parents, then I would be typing this in German, possibility from an entirely different perspective. I say this to say that judgement should be replaced with understanding and the acceptance of differences. Of course, we can’t always see things from the other’s perspective, or understand the logic behind their actions, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re wrong and we’re right. Respect peoples’ rights to do what they want to do and to be who they are. Respect is the only requirement for peace.
It’s not so much about regret-wisdom is most important, although I have to say that remorse is an essential part of the equation.
It’s easy to smile when everything is good. It’s when you become able to smile in the midst in the storm that your spirit is awakened. This is not to say that hard times don’t hurt or make us feel “a way”. It’s only to encourage you to keep your mind on the rainbow that will follow. If you succumb to your circumstance, you won’t get to experience the joy in overcoming.
I think the “devil” is made up of all of the things that keep us from fulfilling our purpose-from becoming the best version of ourselves-whether it be as an artist-a philanthropist-a good mother-a good wife-a good neighbor- the person who hugged that kid last week who’d unbeknownst to you just lost his father to gun violence-the person who dared to walk away from that circle of gossip at “the church” last Sunday. The “devil” is negativity and “it” finds its way onto our shoulders every now and then. The trick is if we are able to “check ourselves” before it jumps on our back and consumes us.
The world we live in is made up of people. Sure there are many other things that surround us, but I’m certain all would agree that none are more powerful than man/woman. We have the power to create a better world-better experiences. I often hear people say that this requires communication and cooperation which can prove quite difficult with an infinite amount of people, but I don’t think it’s that complicated. I find it crazy that you have to communicate or cooperate with people on the right to live your life the way you want, especially if you aren’t causing harm to others.
The world would be a better place if people would do what they know is right. Some will argue that people only do what they’re taught and that it depends on who’s raising you and your culture and so on. But, we all have a conscious-this is a universal fact. Whether we respond to it is another story. The evil in the world evolves from judgement and senses of entitlement. We all come into this world with a soul, which is our connection to the universe and everything in it. You don’t get to pass judgement on other people just because how they think, or live their lives isn’t in alignment with your morals/beliefs. That’s why they’re called “your” beliefs. The most sensible thing to do is to find a group of people who share those morals/beliefs and have them be a part of your world and leave everyone who doesn’t out. Especially, if it can take you to a place of anger-a place from which only negativity can evolve.
We are all unique and we have the right to create a life that works for us. This is what makes the world beautiful-what gives it all of its colors. Culture-religion-lifestyle should not be used as forums for judgement and/or exclusion. This is not to say that you have to “like” every choice that every person makes. It is simply to say that regardless of who we are in our “authentic” selves, we deserve respect. We don’t deserve to be killed, cursed, demeaned, tormented or judged. We deserve to just “BE”.
We are all here-living-present- in this moment for a divine reason. Life is about diversity-about us all being able to fit comfortably in our own skin-to travel through our journeys-to make mistakes-share the stories. It’s about honesty, compassion and acceptance.