It’s not so much about regret-wisdom is most important, although I have to say that remorse is an essential part of the equation.




Life is not always “a good time” but what I’ve learned to do is let all of the good in my life consume me. I immerse myself in it to the point where nothing can still my joy-at least for long. This kind of joy does not evolve from material things-those things only bring superficial happiness and artificial joy. I’m talking about the kind of joy that comes out of knowing-accepting-and respecting who you are. When you love yourself, people feed off of that energy. Sometimes they react negatively and sometimes positively, but the beautiful thing is that, no matter how they react, it has no real effect on you. Unfortunately, there are people who can’t handle being around “happiness”-who can’t handle the transition of you coming into who you are-it somehow makes them feel “a way” -they are “affected” by it. These people have no place in your circle-no place in your life. They exude negative energy-an energy that is fostered by their own personal shortcomings and insecurities. Some of these “issues” might not even be their fault-maybe their upbringing or a tragedy brought it on them. But, one thing is for certain…..it is definitely not your “issue”. In this world we live in, we have to be our own source of joy. Work hard to create a life that you are happy with-become the person you want to be- and remember not to consider any “standards” except your own. People can only “judge” a person to whom their opinion matters.



My stepfather used to always say “life’s not hard-we just make hard choices”. That didn’t resonate with me in my younger years, but as I’m getting older-cruising through my thirties-it makes perfect sense. We all have choices and its super important that we tune into ourselves. Let your instincts lead you. Remember……just because it’s polite to “hear”  the opinions of others, doesn’t mean you have to “listen”. Only you know what’s best for you. Your choices should reflect that. People will offer all of the advice in the world. Some good.Some bad.Some irrelevant. Sometimes it’s from a higher power and that person is just the vehicle being used to relay it to you in a way that you are able to receive it. But don’t be fooled, everyone giving advice doesn’t have good intentions.