It is important to think about the “why” in action. Many factors play into our beliefs, behavior, life choices and the paths we take. We are all different-we have different experiences-been exposed to different things. So, it is inevitable that our perspective-the way in which we “frame” things be different. Differences can be great tools for interpersonal relations, but not without respect.
There is something special about the collaborative process. Not only does it provide a forum for mutual encouragement, it affords the opportunity to become enlightened-to broaden our horizons-to alter our “frames”. If we begin to think about why we “do what we do”, we might gain a deeper understanding of others.
Our beliefs, lifestyles and values are for the most part prescribed, literally from the time we are born. If everything else about me were the same (i.e. personality, temperament, race, size, blood type, etc) but I was raised in Germany by german parents, then I would be typing this in German, possibility from an entirely different perspective. I say this to say that judgement should be replaced with understanding and the acceptance of differences. Of course, we can’t always see things from the other’s perspective, or understand the logic behind their actions, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re wrong and we’re right. Respect peoples’ rights to do what they want to do and to be who they are. Respect is the only requirement for peace.
It’s easy to smile when everything is good. It’s when you become able to smile in the midst in the storm that your spirit is awakened. This is not to say that hard times don’t hurt or make us feel “a way”. It’s only to encourage you to keep your mind on the rainbow that will follow. If you succumb to your circumstance, you won’t get to experience the joy in overcoming.
Don’t allow your life story to be written by your circumstance(s). Sometimes beautiful things are created in convenient situations, but love is where the magic is.
Who created and defined the word “proper” and how did they come to the conclusion that we should be saying’ “aren’t” instead of “ain’t” or “we’re coming” instead of “we comin’ “? As a matter fact as I am typing this “WordPress” is slowing me down trying to convince me that I must be trying to type the word “win” because “there is no way she’s sayin’ “ain’t”. And….to answer their question: “as a matter of fact I AM. I am sayin’ ain’t because sometimes “aren’t” just doesn’t do it for me-it doesn’t have the same effect that “ain’t” does. So……yes, I got a little twang in my voice, and my grammar can be a bit colorful, but it’s a part of me and I’m dope.
We’ll often find ourselves adjusting our pitch-paying too close attention to the way we say our words. Or..feeling “extra validated” when we sound articulate and smart. When you start thinking about all of the other “bullshit” we have to think about on the daily in every aspect of our lives, then I think you would agree that this is one that falls into the category of “when I get time, I MIGHT work on it but I got more important shit to do.”
Embrace all of you-your accomplishments are valid-your dreams are valid-your WORK is valid. The idea of “proper english” is just that. An idea. Society is a concept that we have unconsciously granted control in our lives. Society is made up of people, and it changes from generation to generation. People were awarded the privilege of creating, and developing a set standards that we still reference hundreds, perhaps thousands of years later.
One of the most unfortunate things you can do is not be you in the presence of someone else who is not being them. The interaction has no meaning, neither of you truly got to “know” one another. Be authentic.BE AUTHENTIC at all times.