It is important to think about the “why” in action. Many factors play into our beliefs, behavior, life choices and the paths we take. We are all different-we have different experiences-been exposed to different things. So, it is inevitable that our perspective-the way in which we “frame” things be different. Differences can be great tools for interpersonal relations, but not without respect.
There is something special about the collaborative process. Not only does it provide a forum for mutual encouragement, it affords the opportunity to become enlightened-to broaden our horizons-to alter our “frames”. If we begin to think about why we “do what we do”, we might gain a deeper understanding of others.
Our beliefs, lifestyles and values are for the most part prescribed, literally from the time we are born. If everything else about me were the same (i.e. personality, temperament, race, size, blood type, etc) but I was raised in Germany by german parents, then I would be typing this in German, possibility from an entirely different perspective. I say this to say that judgement should be replaced with understanding and the acceptance of differences. Of course, we can’t always see things from the other’s perspective, or understand the logic behind their actions, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re wrong and we’re right. Respect peoples’ rights to do what they want to do and to be who they are. Respect is the only requirement for peace.
Who created and defined the word “proper” and how did they come to the conclusion that we should be saying’ “aren’t” instead of “ain’t” or “we’re coming” instead of “we comin’ “? As a matter fact as I am typing this “WordPress” is slowing me down trying to convince me that I must be trying to type the word “win” because “there is no way she’s sayin’ “ain’t”. And….to answer their question: “as a matter of fact I AM. I am sayin’ ain’t because sometimes “aren’t” just doesn’t do it for me-it doesn’t have the same effect that “ain’t” does. So……yes, I got a little twang in my voice, and my grammar can be a bit colorful, but it’s a part of me and I’m dope.
We’ll often find ourselves adjusting our pitch-paying too close attention to the way we say our words. Or..feeling “extra validated” when we sound articulate and smart. When you start thinking about all of the other “bullshit” we have to think about on the daily in every aspect of our lives, then I think you would agree that this is one that falls into the category of “when I get time, I MIGHT work on it but I got more important shit to do.”
Embrace all of you-your accomplishments are valid-your dreams are valid-your WORK is valid. The idea of “proper english” is just that. An idea. Society is a concept that we have unconsciously granted control in our lives. Society is made up of people, and it changes from generation to generation. People were awarded the privilege of creating, and developing a set standards that we still reference hundreds, perhaps thousands of years later.
One of the most unfortunate things you can do is not be you in the presence of someone else who is not being them. The interaction has no meaning, neither of you truly got to “know” one another. Be authentic.BE AUTHENTIC at all times.
The “devil” has an agenda and that is to prevent us from getting all of those things we so desperately need to “spiritually survive” in the world. “It” works diligently at deception-and if we’re not careful it can lead us to put all of our energy into the wrong things-things with no substance-material things. Don’t get me wrong-I love “stuff”-I’m a self professed “style head” but I am not defined by anything that I have-it’s doesn’t take precedence over my values-my character-my relationships. I’m conscious of the fact that my spirit won’t take any of it when it leaves this body.
I think the “devil” is made up of all of the things that keep us from fulfilling our purpose-from becoming the best version of ourselves-whether it be as an artist-a philanthropist-a good mother-a good wife-a good neighbor- the person who hugged that kid last week who’d unbeknownst to you just lost his father to gun violence-the person who dared to walk away from that circle of gossip at “the church” last Sunday. The “devil” is negativity and “it” finds its way onto our shoulders every now and then. The trick is if we are able to “check ourselves” before it jumps on our back and consumes us.
Be patient with yourself-you’re doing the best you can. Life has a way of catching us off guard. It seems as though the moment we conquer one obstacle, there is another one evolving. Experiencing “low” points is inevitable-we all fall on “hard” times whether it be emotionally, financially, spiritually, socially-sometimes things don’t pan out the way we hope. This is why it’s important to be in tune with ourselves. When life comes at you sideways, your inner peace can help you feel your way through. I’ve never heard of a life without challenges, but contrary to popular belief-you have the power to create peace in your life. A peace that cannot be diluted by the “ugly” in this world.
If we never have to overcome-how will we measure our strength? Experiences-both good and bad, provide us with an opportunity to acquire wisdom and to challenge ourselves. I speak of strength, not with regard to physicality, but to our mentality, spirituality, character-the things that really matter. I know sometimes it feels like the whole world is moving and you’re standing still, but approach these “moments of stillness” as an opportunities to tune in-to get to know yourself-to plan your next move. “Stillness” is a critical yet often overlooked element in progress.
We all have a little space in the world that we fit into perfectly. Finding that space is perhaps life’s greatest challenge. Not because it’s hidden, but because not all of us are brave enough to go to the places we need to go in order to get there. Vulnerability is not comfortable-it’s something that requires more than confidence. It requires you to tune into yourself to the point where nothing else matters. Holding on to secrets out of shame, guilt and fear of being judged forces you into a mental prison. A prison that keeps your true potential out of reach-keeps you stuck, and without movement, progress is not possible.
Progress is life-it’s the path leading to your destiny wherein lies your purpose. We spend a lot of time moving from “thing” to “thing” with little progress. All of these “things” are just distracting us from what our souls were put into the universe to do. It’s important to remember that progress is not linked to monetary gain, just as success isn’t. There is an abundance of “empty” successful people who are in the same struggle. It’s just that we are all caught up in trying to survive in this crazy world we live in. The sad truth is that we don’t always realize when we become stuck. So many of us are not conscious-more connected with the world around us than we are with ourselves.
Life is not always great-sometimes it terrible, but no matter how we choose to let it play out in our minds our experiences are what they are. They make up our story-a story that is unique to us. Sometimes it can seem like you’ve just been dealt a bad hand, but it’s all in the fiber of your purpose. I believe in a higher power-that our destinies are predetermined-not that we all will get there, but that our place in the universe is reserved. Time keeps moving, even we are standing still. Own your life-the things you’ve been through-stop letting the bad in another person’s journey keep you from getting to your rightful place. Live life with purpose and remember………..purpose has little to do with what you have. It’s not material-it’s of the soul-your soul.